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Top Ways to Recharge your Mind, Body, & Spirit When you Need an Energetic Boost

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Have you been feeling energetically drained as of late? You want to spice things up and get back to feeling like you again, but don't know where to start? Here are some of my favorite ways to recharge your mind, body, and spirit when you need an energetic boost! Pick a few that work for you! 

 

Mind

Make yourself a cup of tea and read a book. Do a Google search for inspirational quotes. Look for words that make you feel empowered! Write down a few of your faves and keep them handy.

Go for a hike or for some fresh air. Spend a day or weekend away if possible. You can even find a beautiful place to just sit and observe nature. Bring your journal with you if you wish.

Have a good cry. Making time for emotional release can actually make you more productive.

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Take a break from the news and social media. Sometimes it can all be too much and quite overwhelming when you're dealing with your own "stuff". Opinions, naysayers, jealousy, and comparison can run abundant in these forums. Spending a lot of time online or watching the news can lead to energy drain. It's okay to unplug for a while. 

Say “No.” You don’t always have to try to be everything to everyone or stretch yourself too thin. It’s okay to set boundaries for self-preservation.

Have some alone time to recharge, but don't isolate yourself. Spend time alone to go within. Seek understanding and wisdom, but don't forget to come back to the world.

Watch an uplifting movie or a comedy. Who or what makes you smile? Cute cat videos, baby goats in pj's, comedic sketches, funny movies? Get reacquainted with your funny bone!

 

Body

Sleep. Catch up on your z’s. When you’re working determinedly on a project you may not be getting enough sleep or think you don’t have enough time to get ample rest. Listen to your body. If you feel like you need extra rest, do it - take a nap. 

Fuel your body properly and eat less processed food. Incorporating citrus fruits like lemons, oranges, or limes and drinking plenty of fresh water can help you to feel rejuvenated as they aid in flushing toxins from your body.

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Connect with your sexual energy. Seriously, kundalini energy, sex energy is powerful stuff. Sexual energy is creative energy. Having sex can also help to release pent up anger and tension.

Listen to music. Pump up the jam! Pull out your headphones and turn up your feel good tunes! Feeling extra daring? Dance around the house naked - when no one's home of course. 

Get a massage or an acupuncture treatment! Having a massage therapist work out the muscle tension in your body or an acupuncturist work with the meridians in your body can help to alleviate pain.

Do something light and fun with friends or family! Be around people you love and who love you unconditionally. Be with those who make you feel safe. Who are your security blanket people? I can't say this however, without saying be aware of any co-depency issues with these people in your life. Have boundaries with those who drain your energy.  

 

Spirit

Get out your crystal companions! Stones like lepidolite, aquamarine, and lithium quartz help to alleviate anxiety and stress while stones like carnelian, citrine, sunstone, or bloodstone help to give you a boost of positive fiery energy.

Connect to the element of fire! The suit of wands in tarot is tied to this element and all it entails from action, drive, and passion to perseverance through hardship, competition with others, and regeneration. Working with fire can add some zesty inspiration to your energy. 

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Balance your chakras. Pay attention to your lower chakras as these are the chakras strongly related to our physical form and energy. We draw up energy from the earth to support these energy centers. Don't forget to clear your aura and protect your energy while you're at it!

Meditate and connect with your Spirit peeps! Your spirit guides can give you insight into where your energy is being zapped and how to take your power back. 

Book a healing or reiki session. Healing sessions can be amazing experiences! A good practitioner can help you to clear away energetic gunk and recharge your battery. Find a trusted healer in your area.

Check the stars and see what's going on astrologically. Get a tarot reading. You may find clues as to why you're feeling energetically sluggish here!

 

I hope this post has helped to give you some ideas as to how you can recharge your mind, body, and spirit when feeling stressed, depressed, or low energy. What are some of your favorite ways to give your energy a boost? 

xo Ariel

 

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Be a Luscious Lightworker | Maven Mindset

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Being a Lightworker and/or an Empath is not always an easy task. You have chosen to incarnate on this planet at this time in history for a particular purpose - your spiritual vocation. Here are some ways to help you stay lusciously shiny and feeling your best through it all!

Luscious Lightworker + Enigmatic Empath Tips

Spiritual Protection

Call in your angels and your guides to surround you in the white light of protection. Archangel Michael is a great spiritual warrior and protector. Invite him into your energy to create a shield of protection around you. Spiritual and Psychic Protection is extremely important to have up when going into toxic environments. Perhaps you have a rough relationship with a coworker, volatile communication with a family member, or maybe you just go to a party and feel vulnerable? It is also important for environments where there will be a lot of buzzing, clashing, and swirling energies abound like a mall or busy restaurant.

Is this mine or someone else's?

When you feel overwhelmed by emotion or when you are having a great day and decide to go out with friends only to return sad and depressed. In those moments, try and see if you can separate the thoughts from the emotions and ask yourself the question of if these emotions really belong to you. Catalog everything you are feeling and try to determine to the best of your ability if you're really angry or if you just happened to pick up your anger from the guy at the bar or your girlfriend's heartache after a fight with her boyfriend.

Clearing your energy + your space

Keeping your aura clear and fresh is a major part of spiritual hygiene, plus it just feels damn good! Use florida water to create an aura mist or get a smudge stick and sage yourself, your home, and your property. You can even get a himalayan salt lamp. See how re-arranging the furniture in a particular room in your home changes the flow of energy. Cleanse your crystals and other magical tools.

Stay grounded

Ground your energy daily to help keep you mindful of the here and now. This will also help to release excess energy or emotions into the earth. Staying grounded is also extremely important in helping you to adjust to and assimilate higher vibrations.

Taking a step back + away from toxic situations

This is important so as not to have your energy drained by toxic situations. The first part of this is being able to recognize an unhealthy situation for what it is. Know when and where to focus your energies. Try not to engage in toxic and unhealthy habits, behaviors, and situations that are not for your best and highest good.

Some may just not understand and that's okay

Some of your family members and friends may not embrace or understand what you do or why you're doing it. Some may think you're crazy or woo-woo or airy fairy and flaky. Send these people love and keep your practice if that is what your soul tells you to do. Just because they may not understand your path, does not mean that they're bad people or carry a low vibration or are not a part of your soul tribe.

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Keep spreading your light anyway

Even though there may be naysayers, shine anyway. Even though you may be frustrated, shine anyway. Even when you feel like you're not being heard, shine anyway. Even when you feel unappreciated and unnoticed, shine anyway. When you feel alone in your cause, shine anyway. When you feel beat down and worn, allow your heart to shine anyway.

Work with high vibe crystals and stones that protect your energy

Some of my favorite crystals for this purpose are selenite, clear quartz, apophyllite, elestial quartz, moldavite, nuumite, aqua aura quartz, celestite, rose quartz, tektite, amethyst, and scocelite. There are many more out there. Don't be afraid to do research on your own. If you're new to the vibration of crystals, be cautious as some of the crystals listed above carry an intense vibration that may make you uncomfortable (like being lightheaded, hot, dizzy, or feeling your body vibrate) if you're not accustomed to the vibration! This is why grounding is important.

Meditate often

Get in touch with your soul. Talk to your Higher Self. De-stress and calm yourself. Clear your mind. Find peace. Sink into your heart center. Meditation is great for stress relief, soul searching, increasing your sense of happiness, and boosting your creativity! It also helps to connect you to the world of spirit, the higher realms, and raises your vibration.

Connect with your spirit guides regularly

They have much guidance and love to share with you. I have had the most beautiful experiences with my spirit guides - especially one's that started in meditation and carried on into the waking world. They send you beautiful signs and symbols if you open your eyes and ears to it!

Drink plenty of water

This keeps your energy clear and flowing as well as helps you stay hydrated. I also believe drinking water helps to strengthen your connection to spirit. The more spiritual work you do, the more water you may drink.

Eat more foods that keep your vibration high

Fruit and veggie it up Lightworker friends! Invite more color into your diet. Try to eat organic when you can. These foods are less dense and keep your vibration lighter as your body isn't busy working on digesting heavier foods like meats and cheeses.

Stop comparing your spiritual journey

Refrain from comparing someone else's experience and knowledge to your own. Whether it be ego and pride or from a lack of self-confidence - cut it out. Seriously love, let it go. All this does is lower your vibration and traps you in a state of insecurity. How can you shine your light as brightly as possible, when you continue to turn your spotlight in someone else's direction? Besides, you have your own unique perspective that needs to be shared. Focus on you and what makes you happy. Those who inspire you did not become a success or full of spiritual wisdom overnight. It took years of lessons, tears, and hard work. You never know what someone else went through or is currently going through. You are exactly where you are meant to be right now in your journey. Embrace it in love. Spiritual growth is not a competition.

xo Ariel

 

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What to Do When You're Tired of Being the Bigger Person | Maven Mindset

We all have times where we get into arguments with those that we love. If you're like me, you have often found yourself in the position where you have to be the bigger person in the situation. But what do you do when you're the one who always has to be the responsible adult? The one who lets it go. When you don't want to shrink on your beliefs or feelings for the sake of a peaceful night, because you resent never being able to just speak your mind without ridicule. When you feel like you're forfeiting your dignity and intelligence to suffer in silence. When you're angry because that one person is just not listening to you, here is how you can hold sacred space for yourself.

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Connect with your guides and angels in meditation. What qualities does this person have that are bothering you so deeply and why? Try to form a deeper sense of understanding. Ask your guides to help you with this. If this is a family issue, ask your Ancestors to come in to help clear up any karma and to begin ancestral or bloodline healing. Extend love and forgiveness to the person. It's not as much for them as it is for you so that you're not allowing bitterness and resentment to take over your energy and harden your heart. Oh ya, and of course send them love and light like the high vibe lightworker you are!

The Devil

Avoid addictive behaviors resulting from an 'F - it' attitude. You won't hurt them by doing this, the only person you'll really be hurting is yourself. Resist the urge to lash out. Don't leave them lying in the dust after you stampede. Don't trample what is already a probably a very fragile ego. Yes, it may feel good in the moment to take out your agressions, frustrations, and disappointments on this person, however it doesn't heal the situation. Remember that it's their lesson too. It's not your problem if they're not ready to learn it.

Two of Cups

Talk with others about the situation. Find common ground with the offender, but don't be afraid of setting boundaries! Remember the good qualities they have however, don't romanticize them or the situation. Protect yourself. Why keep giving to a person who is not willing or open to receive? Don't cry over spilled milk whether it's wasted time or energy. Pick up your cup, wash it clean of their bs, and take it with you as you meet others who believe in kindness, compassion, and an even exchange of energy. Refill your cup with love, understanding, and appreciation.

Justice

Trust that the Universe will handle it. Karma will level the scales. Do not be unfair or unjust to this person even though the human part of you wants to snub them like they've snubbed you. Don't worry about wanting them to hurt as much as they've hurt you. Get rid of that low vibrational thinking. Take the high road!  The Universe has already laid a plan. This situation, this person, has come into your life to teach you a lesson. Perhaps it may even be a karmic relationship if this type of thing happens repeatedly or if you notice a pattern. How can you break the cycle?

Hope this helps you keep your power when you feel like someone you love is trying to take it away.

xo Ariel

How to Create a Gratitude Box | The Attitude of Gratitude | Maven Mindset

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A Gratitude Box is a fantastic tangible reminder of all that you have to be grateful for, especially during times of loss, hardship, or when you just want to feel all the love and blessings you have around you! Creating a Gratitude Box is helps you to open your heart and deepen your sense of appreciation for your life. What do you have to be thankful for?

Here’s how you can make your own!

 

Find your Focal Point

- Where do you want your gratitude to be focused? What are you grateful for? A new job? New baby? Your marriage? An achievement? Your family? Abundance? A loved one lost? Use an item as representation of this. I love to use oracle cards for this purpose!

Box

- What kind of box do you wish to use? Wooden? Plastic? An antique jewelry box?  Family heirloom? You can even a use a shoebox!

Cleanse + Clear

- Your box, as well as anything you put in it, should be cleared and cleansed of any negative, muddy, stagnant, or unwanted energy. You want the energy to be fresh, pure, and clear for your show of thanks!

Decorate it

- Show it some love! Put YOU into it.

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What Can You Put Inside Your Box?

 

Crystal Suggestions

- You can work with rose quartz, green aventurine, clear quartz, garnet, scocelite, or any crystal that fits your reason for gratefulness.

Memorabilia/Special Mementos

- Photos, family photo of loved one who’s passed, a representation of your hard work like a diploma or certificate, your fur babies’ collar/tag if they brought you so much love and comfort, baby booties, something special from your wedding day. Use whatever is special to you and is a reason of gratitude!

A $10 Bill

- A reminder that you are always abundant

A Sacred Item

- Like a rosary, a medallion, mala beads, or a figurine of deity/spirit animal

Affirmations

- Write these as inspiration and motivation for future moments where you may be feeling lack, fear, doubt, anger, or depression

Cards

- Include a special birthday, congratulations, tarot, or oracle card. You can even include a significant handwritten letter someone sent to you

Write a List

- Write about all of the things you're currently grateful for to help you remember why you're grateful - a date (wedding/graduation date), a certain situation, a gift, your health, family, your bed, your education, peace, harmony, your spouse, your career, etc.

Check out this video, where I create my own Gratitude Box, for more inspiration!

 

Stay Grateful & Happy Creating!

xo Ariel

The Attitude of Gratitude | 55 Ideas & Journal Prompts for the Holiday Season | Maven Mindset

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Gratitude is the Attitude of the season lovely ones! When we show thanks for the many blessings in our lives, seen and unseen, past, present, or future, we open our hearts to possibilities, opportunities, forgiveness, and love. Getting in touch with our sense of gratitude and appreciation helps us to center and ground ourselves as well. In honor of that (and in honor of the gratitude I have for all of you!), here is a list I have created that is chock-full of ideas and journal prompts to help you deepen your sense of, as well as express, an attitude of gratitude this holiday season or any time of the year! Get your journal handy and dive on in! Be sure to use #gratitudeistheattitude on social media if you decide to share any discoveries you make on your journey of deepening your gratitude consciousness.

Ideas for Expressing Gratitude

  1. Keep a Gratitude Journal - take inventory of what you have to be grateful for whether that be daily, weekly, or monthly
  2. Volunteer your time and energy by working in an animal shelter, homeless shelter, soup kitchen, library, hospital, or retirement home. What is close to your heart
  3. Donate your clothes, money, or food to a charity, church, or noble cause
  4. Make a meal for family, friends, or someone going through a rough time with grief
  5. Tutor someone. Use your gifts to help another
  6. Charge a crystal with gratitude or make a gratitude crystal grid
  7. Write a Letter of thanks to yourself or someone who has greatly impacted your life in a positive manner
  8. Pay it Forward
  9. Simply say ‘Thank You’ to the random stranger who smiles, waves, compliments, or holds the door for you. Thank your guides and your angels for all they do!
  10. Pray - Give thanks for your life, health, family, food on the table. Pray for the less fortunate.
  11. Light/Charge a Candle
  12. Create a Gratitude Vision Board
  13. Send healing and thanks to Mother Earth
  14. Do something nice for your family, parents, or a total stranger
  15. Put Ego, status, and feelings of entitlement aside. Act and listen with your heart
  16. Acknowledge your privileges
  17. Make a gratitude wreath containing items representative of your gratefulness
  18. Don’t be afraid to have a conversation with someone less fortunate to let them know they matter too! A warm smile and a genuine ‘Hello, how are you?’ can work wonders for the spirit of both parties
  19. Do something for Mother Earth. Plant a tree, pick up trash in your local park, recycle
  20. Write affirmations of gratitude and carry them with you to read and say throughout the day
  21. Help children! Play with children. Read to children. Lead by positive example. Invite more pure, non-judgmental, childlike innocence into your soul.
  22. Express your gratitude creatively through music, singing, dancing, and art
  23. Do a gratitude meditation or ritual

Journal Prompts for Deepening your Personal Sense of Gratitude

24.  What do you take for granted in your life? Why do you think you have trouble expressing gratitude for this?

25.  What were you able to manifest this year?

26.  What were you able to release this year that was of benefit to you?

27.  Where can you invite more gratitude into your life? How? 28.  How do you think showing more gratitude will change your life?

29.  Write about a significant moment in which someone in your life extended gratitude to you?

30.  Write about a significant moment in which you extended gratitude to someone else?

31.   Where do you feel the sensation of gratitude in your body? What does this mean to you?

32.  How does your energy and outlook shift when you’re in a state of gratitude?

33.  What is your own personal definition of the word gratitude? What is gratitude consciousness?

34.  Why do you believe it is important to be grateful?

35.  What does gratitude teach you?

36.  How has your definition of gratitude changed throughout your life? Is it more complicated or is it more simple? Why?

37.  What is the difference between gratitude and appreciation?

38.  How do gratitude and generosity work together?

39.  When you feel ungrateful or someone tells you that you’re being ungrateful, how does that impact you? What does it mean to you?

40.  What are you most grateful for today, right now, in this moment? What freedoms are you grateful for?

41.  How was gratitude taught to you as a child? What examples do you have?

42.  Why do you believe the holiday season is associated with gratitude?

43.  What times of the year do you feel most grateful and why?

44.  What times of the year do you feel least grateful and why?

45.  Do you show gratitude and thanks even when you feel that you currently have nothing to be grateful for? Why or why not?

46.  Does your sense of gratitude have boundaries or limitations?

47.  What is your favorite way of showing gratitude?

48.  Do you show gratitude differently to different people? Why or why not? Who inspires you to be more appreciative?

49.  What personality traits are you most grateful for? What does your body do for you that you have to be grateful for?

50.  Which animals and natural wonders are you most grateful for?

51.  If you could only pick one item in your home/life that you’re most grateful for, who or what would it be? Why?

52.  How does laughter contribute to your sense of gratitude? After all you’ve been through in your life, why is it still possible for you to laugh?

53.  How do effort and hard work affect your sense of gratitude? If you’re not acknowledged or recognized for your work, how does that effect your feelings and how you show gratitude?

54.  Write about a particularly hard, weird, eye opening, or difficult time in your life that when you look back on it, you wouldn’t change. What lessons did this teach you? How has it helped to shape your life? Why are you grateful for this lesson?

55.  What situations or blessings in your life were you Divinely guided to? What would you say to those in Spirit (angels, guides, loved ones who have passed, ancestors, deities, God/Source/The Universe) who helped bring this opportunity to you?

Happy discovering adventurous soul!

In gratitude,

xo Ariel

Appreciation for the Journey on the Road to Awakening | Maven Mindset

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Looking back at your journey thus far, I'm sure you've learned a lot along the way. You may wish you were better prepared before you embarked on this expedition of self-discovery, but you wouldn't trade your unique experience for anything. Here are some things I've learned thus far in my own journey, as well as what I have come to appreciate about the journey of soul and self-discovery, the road of awakening, and the journey of being your most authentic self...

You're learning what is of heartfelt importance to you. You're better at bringing your focus back to the present. To look back and see how far you've come. Don't sweat the small stuff! Let it go. In the grand scheme go things, is it really that big of a deal? Don't stress about all that you have left to do, dream about, and accomplish. You know it will happen when it's meant to, so there is no need to attach to outcomes.

You have an appreciation for the process of letting go. You've gotten better at releasing! YES! Although it is never easy, the more you do it, the better you become at surrendering. You realize that releasing is vital to the health of not only your immortal soul, but also your human body. You can recognize a good release by the way you stand taller, your shoulders relax, your neck muscles aren't as tight. Everything about your energy is just lighter!

You understand the value of slow steady growth. Is a weed that sprouts up over night stronger than a great oak? You take time to stop and smell the flowers. To relish in the experience. To sink-in to the journey. To allow the road, your soul purpose, to become part of the way you walk and talk. You're not in any rush - where is the fun in that? You'd rather savor every moment, every lesson along the way. That way you really learn them- maybe even the first time around! Strong foundations are important to you. You want your knowledge and experience to have a backbone. Something to stand on that speaks all for itself.

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You've learned some warning signs - who and who not to trust. You have become a better judge of character (by getting to know yourself), but not judgmental - you just know who you would like to invite into your energy and who you'd rather keep at a bit of a distance. You know to pick your battles wisely. To not feed into another's negative behavior. To not get wrapped up in other people's drama - remember, not my circus, not my monkeys. You understand the insanely crazy value of setting boundaries and how it is a benefit to not only you, but also to others in your life as well.

You're getting better at that little thing called Self-Talk. You've been working on healing thoughts of a comparing nature. You understand that the grass really isn't always greener on the other side, but you are too busy focusing on pulling your own weeds, sowing seeds, and spreading fertilizer to notice your neighbor's lawn.  You've become better at freeing yourself from self-oppressing thoughts, self-sabotage, and lower vibrational patterns of behavior. You truly know the worth of thinking positively and the power of your own manifestation abilities!

You have a ton of excitement and hope for the future! You can over come anything and you know that now! You see all of the remnants of past challenges behind you - in a cloud of smoke, lying in the dust. You tore threw them like a hurricane (even though it may not have felt that way in the moment).  You are more sure of where you want to go, what you're looking for, and have a better idea of how to get it. You know where to look for opportunities. Understand the value and deep worth of self-expression. You're better able to determine when and when not to take action. You're more daring and ready for new adventures!

What have you learned on your journey of awakening thus far? What lessons are you currently grappling with? I'd love to hear your insights!

xo Ariel

Old Friends, New Circumstances | Maven Mindset

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Whether you grew apart, had an argument, or some unfortunate circumstances - your friendship with this person ended. You may have felt a sense of loss, grief, anger, resentment, betrayal, or any combination of these emotions, at the realization of this. Time has passed. Now you've moved on. You stuffed it down into a deep pocket of your soul, think you've forgiven the person, or the hurt has lessened with time. Then BAM! That very person sends you a friend request or a text message. You see them when out to breakfast with a significant other or at the doctors office. Past events race through your mind at lightening speed as well as the emotions associated with them. Do they remember? Maybe you don't want to look a them but you can't help it. Should you say hello and smile or should you two just continue to have a good 'ol cowboy movie stare down? Who will blink first?   First let me preface this blogpost by saying this: You are NOT the same person you were whenever this incident or disconnection occurred. Hopefully you've learned and grown from the experience. It may be exciting to see this person again -especially if you're lonely or they're someone you long for. You may hope for a rekindling. Seeing this person again may cause you nausea, anxiety, anger, fear, sadness, joy, even sexual attraction. The body reacts first, and sometimes it can feel sickening and you may not react in the way you were expecting. Take note of how you feel when your energies reconnect, even if that feeling only lasts a moment. Is there more that needs to be healed?

Growth + Change

Have they grown and changed? Is that change in alignment with your vibration and the new heights you'd like your vibration to go? Would their attitude and vibration help you both to ascend together or would they bring you down and be a distraction from your current destination? Maybe these 'visitors' as I'll call them, are a reminder of where you used to be, how far you've come, and where you're headed. A reminder to not look back, but to look forward. Maybe they are signposts for growth - phantoms of past lessons you've learned.

I've decided to use some tarot cards to help us take a look at the deeper lessons involved when a "ghost from your past" pops back up into your life.

6 of Cups - Memories Shared + Nostalgia

When first seeing this person after the passage of time, you may feel your stomach in knots and your heart flutter as your mind takes a saunter down memory lane. Your inner child may be jumping up and down from reconnecting with an old playmate or your high school self may be turning to mush after seeing an old flame across the way at the grocery store. These warm and fuzzy feelings invoked by the memories of our time spent with this person can sometimes bring us back to a simpler time. They can make us wish we were a more free and less inhibited version of ourselves again. They give us joy and laughter. They help us to see where we've grown and matured through the silly mistakes we made in the past. These may be the memories you fall asleep to at night. Reconnecting with this person may be an opportunity for you to let your hair down and have some fun again. Take a walk down memory lane together over ice cream and reminisce a while. It can be nice to take a break from daily stresses and relive nostalgic moments with this person by going to a park that you two used to frequently go to together or doing any activity that you both enjoyed. Taking this time with an old friend to catch up can refresh and reinvigorate you!

The Devil - Unhealthy Influences

Unfortunately there are times when someone from a darker part of our past stalks across our path. When seeing this person again, you may feel a pit in your stomach, start to perspire, and your heart may feel caught in your throat. You may instantly want to start crying or run from fear. This person may bring up feelings of personal insecurity within you and may reinforce the need for more healing work on the issue at hand - whether that be a drug addiction, abuse, rape, bullying, someone who took advantage of you, or anything that was not for your best and highest good. It is also a reminder that you (hopefully) are recovering or have recovered from the issue. You are not the same person you were then. You a stronger now. Don't let fear or someone outside of you make you quiver or steal your joy! You have overcome! You freed yourself from unhealthy influences and circumstances. You decided that your life and happiness was and is more important. Let this be a reminder to keep moving forward. Don't allow negative influences from your past to trap you there.

3 of Swords and 10 of Swords - Heartbreak + Betrayal

Did this person break your heart? It doesn't take a romantic relationship to have a broken heart. A friend, teacher, co-worker, sibling, or parent can give you one as well. Seeing someone who betrayed you in the past does 2 things:

  1. Gives you the opportunity to extend forgiveness.
  2. Let's you know that more inner healing work may need to be done on your part.

You don't have to walk up to the person who has hurt you and say "I forgive you for...", (however if your soul calls you to do it then I would, unless you are in a situation where it would be completely inappropriate, use your discretion), but you can extend a silent forgiveness, through love from your heart chakra, to that person. You could even go home and write a letter to that person, then take it outside, and burn it. Make a ritual of it. Wish them joy, love, and peace. Forgiveness is for you. Are you staying stuck in those feelings of hurt and betrayal? Why? What do you need to release it? I will say this - don't expect that person to tell you they are sorry. Don't have any attachment to outcomes. Sometimes what you need from someone, they are just incapable of giving it to you. Not necessarily that they don't want to, they just currently don't have the capacity to do so and may never. And that is okay! That's a part of their journey and definitely a teaching moment for you. That is a lesson I have learned over time and it has served me well. 

9 of wands - Defensiveness

You may notice that you are a bit on the defensive when you come in contact with this person. Maybe not in an active way, but in a passive (or passive aggressive) way. You want to boast and let them know what you're doing now. On the other hand, you could be very stand-offish to general good natured conversation. You may also be afraid that you're not up to par with where you could or should be due to what others or society believes you should be doing with your life at this point in time. You may compare yourself to their progress and deem yourself better or worse off than they are. You don't want to seem inadequate or like some type of slacker. This is definitely a lesson in Ego. You may also be defensive of past actions you took  or choices you made- maybe even actions that helped lead to the end of your friendship. One word (more like interjection lol) from Spirit guys:  "Let that -ish go! Agree to disagree or accept that yes, maybe you made a mistake beautiful soul. We all make mistakes! It's part of our learning and evolving as souls. Admit when you are wrong and be humble." 

5 of Cups vs 8 of Cups  - Something Left to Salvage or Time to Move On?

Is there anything about your relationship with this person that is worth reconnecting with? Have you both grown in healthy positive ways? Can you make amends and reform the bonds of companionship - even though it may never be the same, and if it's not, are you okay with that? If you do start over and try to rebuild a friendship with this person, do you believe there will always be a dark cloud in the background of what transpired between you? Listen to your intuition. Your soul will let you know if it is time to leave the past in the past. What does your body say? Try to connect with your guides if you're really troubled  about the issue. Ask for clarity. Truly evaluate the benefits of rekindling this friendship or relationship. Is it worth it? What would the lessons you learned about the situation say?  Can both of you get over the past and really make a change? You know the answer in your heart of hearts. If it is salvageable great! If it is not, don't be afraid to say your final good-bye's and to keep moving forward in a positive direction. Don't torture yourself with what might be. Listen to your gut and don't be afraid of the unknown. Don't reconnect with this person just because you're lonely, when you know deep down they bring you down or are not the kind of energy you need in your life.  

Judgement and The World - We Are All Teachers

Maybe this person you saw while on vacation with your family or at another table across the restaurant when out at dinner, did something scandalous or you just don't vibe with them for a particular reason. You pass judgement upon them, are envious of or stereotype them, or still see them for a mistake they made 10 years ago. Remember loves, we are all connected. We all love, we all grieve, we all laugh, we all have embarrassing moments or have been lied to. It is part of our human experience. What you dislike in someone else may truly be a part of yourself that you don't like or remind you of a mistake you made. Maybe where you went left, they went right. Everyone you come into contact with (including yourself) is a teacher. Each teacher has a lesson for us. These ghosts or visitors from your past may come up to remind you of the lessons learned, let you know that your knowledge and understanding of this lesson needs to be taken to a deeper level now, or it may just be a slap in the face to humble yourself. Take the lesson and remember that we are all equal. Think back over the experience and apply the knowledge gained from it into your life.

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Please comment below with any experiences you've had with old friends and new circumstances, as well as any lessons you've learned along the way. How did you feel? How did you deal?

xo Ariel